http://nlp-experts.org/ en Thu, 09 Sep 2010 16:34:31 GMT vBulletin 60 http://nlp-experts.org/images/misc/rss.png http://nlp-experts.org/ http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/381-nlp-what-stops-change-thoughts-ideas.html Tue, 31 Aug 2010 17:50:18 GMT NLP | What Stops Change? Thoughts and Ideas

As a part of exploring change and success it's worth exploring what stops people changing. Some thoughts:

1) The change isn't in the individuals best interest (or the best interest of those closest to them)
2) The individual hasn't connected with the benefits of changing over time
3) The individual hasn't connected with the implication of 'not changing' over time
4) The individual doesn't have an effective internal strategy for changing (imagination, sensory strategy, internal dialogue, anchors etc etc)
5) The individual doesn't have an effective external strategy for changing (behavioural strategy)

In addition these may be compounded by:

6) Too many other priorities (no time)
7) Crises which take 100% of indivuals attention away from the change
8) They don't put the effort in to start and maintain the momentum that any change requires
9) They don't get external validation from others, and become demotivated
10) They celebrate too early and loose focus before the change habituates

Luckily good strategies in 4) and 5) can inoculate against 6) to 10) above,

All thoughts welcome, ]]> Thoughts on Success! Any thoughs, ideas and opinions? michaelbeale@ppimk.com http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/381-nlp-what-stops-change-thoughts-ideas.html http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/350-what-makes-good-nlp-mentor-coach.html Sat, 09 Jan 2010 10:39:26 GMT What makes a good NLP Mentor or Coach While the very best coaching and mentoring depends on the strength of the relationship between the client... What makes a good NLP Mentor or Coach

While the very best coaching and mentoring depends on the strength of the relationship between the client and the coach or mentor, and being able to create a safe space to explore, support and challenge -And therefore depends on the specific context,

I have found the following list to be a useful guide as to what makes a good coach and mentor:


1) A curiosity about helping people solve their own problems

2) In control of their own goals, not simply serving their clients

3) Life experience

4) Business experience

5) Ability to 'shut up' and give the client room to think

6) Ability to suspend ego, albeit temporarily

7) Developed their own models from other coaches, mentors and clients

8) Formal accreditation

9) Practice, practice, practice

10) Feedback, feedback, feedback

11) Feedback against results, rather than what people say at the time

Good training and coaching enable you to significantly 'build on' and 'amplify' what you're already good at and therefore training is an important part of the mix in becoming a good coach or mentor. ]]> Thoughts on Success! Any thoughs, ideas and opinions? michaelbeale@ppimk.com http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/350-what-makes-good-nlp-mentor-coach.html http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/338-what-makes-successful-consultant.html Mon, 02 Nov 2009 08:48:38 GMT MAKING IT IN TODAY'S ECONOMY
TRAITS & CHARACTERISTICS OF SUCCESSFUL CONSULTANTS

Thanks to John La Valle for letting me republish this,

Having just returned from trainings in London, I thought it a good idea to answer one of the questions that I was asked, again, by enough people to make it worthwhile to write about here. I wrote this a couple of years ago, and have retitled it because of the current economic times. And I continue to remind people:

We are the economy! The most important things people look for in doing business are consistency, keeping things easy and simple, and honesty!

The question I've been asked is, "What makes a successful consultant?" Well, I've taken this question and expanded it sideways to include "trainer, teacher, manager, etc." and expanded it upwards to include 'entrepreneur, etc." because to me, whatever it is you're doing professionally, it helps to put yourself in the position, or role, of "consultant" at certain times, places and other contexts.

Based on my experience with many different people across many different professions, the ones that are the most successful have or do the following things:

They are driven - not just ambitious - driven by their passions, their abilities, their purpose. They know themselves so well that they do not need to explain themselves to others. Their behavior "says" it all.

They are infectious - their above permeates a room, permeates all they meet, their environment. Some will call this charisma, others energy. Whatever you call it, know what it is because you have not only experienced it, but have it.

They are passionate about whatever it is they do, truly passionate. Even when they have the opportunity to "sell" something. They don't have to because their passion spills over onto the people listening and/or in their presence. And most people want to have success.

They know the following that I have been saying for years and years - "No one is good at everything, but everyone is good at something". They know what they are good at, and they have built on that. They know what they are not good at and pass it up, or pass it along to someone else, when those opportunities come by. They know their niche and have developed their own "expertise" of it.

They are not afraid of hard work - as a matter of fact, it's not they are not afraid of it, they don't equate it with their passion - to them it's not work, it's their life; it's what they love doing. For years I've told people: "Do what you love and you'll never work another day in your life." And at the same time, working 24/7 is part of it for them. This does not mean that they don't make time away from their "career", but there is always that one small wheel clicking away in the back of their mind that keeps them on track.

They know that making mistakes is part of making decisions. They don't expect perfection, but they do expect optimization. At the same time, they also have high expectations for themselves, and for others, but they understand how to balance all these towards success.

They know how to say "I don't know" with confidence.

They are continuously learning - not just from seminars, books, tapes, etc., but from the experiences they are having. They are acute observers of their environment and can calibrate interventions well and the results of those interventions, whether theirs or someone else's, regardless of how subtle.

They have solid morals and values and their behavior is consistent. They do not waiver. They may change their minds, but only after very careful consideration of new information.

They keep things simple - their communication, their strategies, everything possible is kept simple, but not at the expense of wasting resources, more appropriately, they keep things precise.

They are honest and they understand dishonesty and are prepared for it.
They have a healthy skepticism of the business environment in which they are operating and have the strategies to evaluate opportunities.

How many of the above do you honestly have and/or do? Happy Consulting, or whatever it is you do.

?2009 John La Valle, all rights reserved in all media. ]]> Thoughts on Success! Any thoughs, ideas and opinions? michaelbeale@ppimk.com http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/338-what-makes-successful-consultant.html http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/248-defence-barack-obama.html Wed, 03 Jun 2009 12:31:07 GMT We have some of Barrack Obamas speaches up on our little forum here as an example of good communication and presentation skills, to which Obama... We have some of Barrack Obamas speaches up on our little forum here as an example of good communication and presentation skills, to which Obama clearly excels - Even his harshest critics refer to him as 'Eloquent', which I've heard bitterly spat out of so many Fox anchors mouths that it almost sounds like a nasty word rather than a compliment.

In NLP we're always interested in archetypal, role model types, to demonstrate effectively the characteristics needed needed different areas of success. Obama's self-assured, concise way of talking is a very good example of very good communication - We are not in any way suggesting that he formally studies NLP or hypnosis techniques.

But it's been suggested to me that some people are referencing this site as a tenuous link to support the idea that Barack Obama is using hypnosis in his speeches to effect the American public - A popular word appearing in extreme Right-Wing media being 'Brainwashed'

'Obama has brainwashed the public.' etc

This is, frankly, both untrue and impossible.

All politicians and public speakers have to conform to a certain standard in order to effectively present a message and command attention. This includes Republican speakers, as well as sales people, actors - and any occupation that has an emphasis on speech. They all have certain characteristics, tactics, wordplays, and trends.

All NLP does is notice those good communication skills, structure them, and teach people to emulate them. Hypnosis is something completely different.

Hypnosis is just a arbitary tag thrown at the higher ends of the scale influence. In some senses you could accuse any influencial person as using hypnosis - as hypnosis and influence are something people don't truly understand, and conveniently can't be easily disproven. It has the same integrity and maturity of claiming that a comedian uses invisible hands to tickle his audience into laughing.

Whether hypnosis even works over television or throughout large audiences through speach alone is arguable . If anything, flat, verbal communication in the form of a speach is one of the least hypnotic aspects of modern television - No uplifting music, interspersed with images elluding to sex, success and happiness - The type that feature heavily on television adverts, that are precisely timed and planned, that we have become accustomed to switch off to and allow into our senses and consciousness again and again and again.

That has to be one of the most worrying aspects of television - repetition. It isn't sophisticated enough to be labeled hypnosis, in my view - In the same way that an alcoholic would be missing the point in calling himself a 'Wine coniseur' - It's quantiy over quality, the same unconvincingly disguised images and associations, repeated over and over for months on end.

But as I say - This is suggestion and influence, not hypnosis. Suggestion and influence are fair game in modern society - They're a big part of freedom of speech and capitalist ideas. We have a social competition as to who can get thier message and ideas out into the public consciousness - But ultimately the public still have a choice in the matter, despite the innevitable influence of advertising campaigns - But even this is limitted.

I can't help but neurologically branching from the Pizza Hut slogan 'Great Pizza, great time' into 'Great times, sub-par, sweaty pizza.' just because after a while common sense builds us a resiliance to this droning, grinding form of suggestion - Truth speaks louder than other peoples messages. One of the fundemental facts of hypnosis is that it can only be used to influence gradually, in a way that has both feet grounded on truth, and is in the best interest of the subject.

Otherwise is just wouldn't work. People's resilience to negative suggestion would break any trance instantly.

And this is the important negative in the word 'Hypnotism' that people often have, and of which this particular smear of Obama relies upon. To some people 'Hypnotism' implies that the subject (or victim) of hypnosis has no control or choice over the suggestion that is being given.

This would be true if not for one solid, objective fact:

-We don't live in a tedious, long running American soap opera or a Naked Gun movie.

I don't know if conspricay theorists or Right-wing propagandanauts watch Days of Our Lives, or Passions - But I suspect they do, because it requires that leap of such logical-less blunder to arrive in crazy town and assume that the president of the United States of America is has powers of mind control. I wonder if to these people Days of Our Lives seems like a hard-hitting fly on the wall documentary - An expos? into the political world.

*To pre-empt any unfair counter-criticism let it be known that I am not liberal or left-wing. These words don't really mean much outside of America. I am just opposed to fallacy in all it's shapes and sizes - American politics and the media bias in reporting it seems to be a dismal lesson in 'how not to argue.'. There are genuine criticisms of Obama to be made, but so far the Right seems to be more interested in non-citicims like how he bowls or what kind of mayonaise he likes - or not-so-subtley tugging on fearful heartstrings by implying that he's a terrorist because his name sounds like Osama. ]]> Thoughts on Success! Any thoughs, ideas and opinions? liam http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/248-defence-barack-obama.html http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/247-introduction-my-ranting-grounds.html Wed, 03 Jun 2009 11:59:25 GMT My name is Liam Beale, I'm a filmmaker currently living in Hong Kong - Although I've travelled over China and lived in Japan. This isn't because I enjoy travelling as such, more that I'm bored of Western culture (Or lack of.) and don't want to get caught up in the patterns of it when I make my own films.

I'm also one of the only holders of the (now extinct) degree in martial arts - Which means almost nothing in today's age. What it should signify though is that I have a deep interest in martial arts, and as it happens I know an awful lot about them. I studied with Shao Lin monks in China, and I look amazing in orange with a shaved head.

Currently I work as aide to a professor of Neurology (Amongst other things.) in Hong Kong, so I am currently forced to learn libraries worth of painfully technical and interesting books on the human brain and the human mind. My particular interest is Sociology, but I find myself echoing the teachings of this genius of Neurology - Although, the echo may sound distinctly stupider and less Chinese.

Also it's probably worth mentioning that I am Michael Beale's son, meaning that I speak the language of NLP with the same unavoidable wave of nature that makes a Cow goes 'Moo'. I'm particularly pragmatic, and believe that NLP has to be taken to the streets - People need to free themselves from theories and books and begin living what they learn as actively and independantly as possible, because that's how we actually adapt.

And I'm also incredibly critical. I hate marketing ploys and spiels. I hate anything that avoids substance itself - and will undoubtedly spend a good portion of the coming articles poking holes in various projects and schemes that tickle me the wrong way. If I seem to hate the subject that I'm criticising, this may not be the case - I think criticism in the right way is a wonderful thing and should be encouraged.

The point of this thread and my part on this forum is for me to have my 'two cents' on various topics in the wide field of NLP-related matters. This could be anything from reviews of television shows and books, my opinions on more complex social issues and politics - or on a bad day, just whining about something in a fuax-comic fashion and using long, winding sentences that could be mistaken, by the untrained eye, for wit.

It might not be funny, it might not be clever - but it will have a word count of over 250.

And words don't lie, people.

-Liam ]]> Thoughts on Success! Any thoughs, ideas and opinions? liam http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/247-introduction-my-ranting-grounds.html http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/172-making-quantum-leap-forward.html Mon, 02 Feb 2009 22:51:14 GMT Correct me if I'm being overoptimistic or if I'm just plain dreaming but I think that whats been accomplished with the aid of NLP so far is just the tip of the iceberg. I've always been fascinated by the mind and well before I started studying mind sciences I had been researching and experimenting with my own mind using things like lucid dreaming (comes naturally to me) or implementing my own belief system I saw for myself the power of belief.

I won't get into all the details but I have reason to believe that a great scourge of mankind at the moment is pessimism. Pessimistic beliefs backed up by false logic. False logic such as the notion that the mind is rigid and takes years to change. A hypnotist could demonstrate otherwise. I think the best example I can use is dreams. When your in a dream your bound by self induced false logic. The laws of gravity may apply in the real world but they do not apply in your dreams. At least you are not bound by them. Personally even when I found myself in lucid dreams I would try to fly but I just couldn't get off the ground. There was a shred of doubt in my mind as to whether it was possible. It was only after I had a non lucid spontaneous dream where I was flying for some reason and I became lucid in mid air and from that point on I KNEW I could do it.

Now I can fly with ease in lucid dreams but if it hadn't been for that accidental discovery I may have never been able to fully overcome my false logic/limiting belief. This demonstrated to me the power of belief and it also demonstrated that thinkng something is possible is not the same thing as truly believing or knowing its possible. Now what I think is that there are many people suffering from depression or anxiety or whatever who are operating on false logic which is keeping them from changing. Anxiety and depression are within our own minds so of course we can overcome them with our own minds.

Anyhow what I'm getting at is that a great deal of good can be done with the knowledge of NLP. The saying "one man won't make a difference" doesn't apply in this case because one man will make a difference to 10 other men then those 10 other men will learn NLP and go and apply it to 10 other men and these good deeds will proliferate at an exponential rate. Again correct me if I'm being overoptimistic these are just my opinions which aren't very informed yet. Best to set the bar too high than too low though. That way at least you'll go as high as you can go whether you reach it or not. :) ]]> Thoughts on Success! Any thoughs, ideas and opinions? MrSparkle http://nlp-experts.org/thoughts-success-any-thoughs-ideas-opinions/172-making-quantum-leap-forward.html