Thread: Making Money - Dr Peta Stapleton

Dr Peta Stapleton discusses money and attracting money with NLP Trainer Michael Beale




Dr Peta Stapleton has 14 years experience as a registered Psychologist in the State of Queensland, Australia and has completed a Bachelor of Arts, Postgraduate Diploma of Professional Psychology and Doctor of Philosophy. She divides her time between lecturing for the School of Health, Griffith University, coordinating psychological research trials into new therapies, and private practice, specialising in addictions and eating disorders.

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Michael : Firstly I'd really like to thank you for taking part in another one of our podcasts. I've been aware for sometime that you've written a book called "Attract Money Subconsciously" and I'm really pleased to have the chance to ask you some questions about it.

Peta : Yes, it's great to join you today.

Michael : OK, so would you kick off by introducing yourself, saying a little bit about you?

Peta : Sure, I'm a registered psychologist here in Queensland Australia and a member of all of our psychology bodies, that kind of thing. I'm actually a senior lecturer in medicine at one of our universities. the Griffith university, and in conjunction with that I am actively involved with private practice as a psychologist as well.

I tend to specialise with adolescents, so that always keeps my life interesting and fun - and obviously in my spare time I really enjoy writing and contributing in that way.

Michael : Alright, excellent. Now it may be an obvious question, but could you start off by stating what you mean by "Attracting money?"

Peta : It probably is quite obvious - and when I first started to write this book, for various reasons, it really was the physical form of money or what you've got in the bank, this kind of thing, but as I progressed in the book I realised for myself, and I guess people reading the book, that attracting money is really a much bigger field, of attracting wealth and prosperity and abundance, in many areas of life, not just the hard, cold cash that you might have in the bank, but how much you can attract lots of abundant areas in your life and improve those. So I really think that the book covers those areas in life.

Michael : OK, so although you started firmly on cash it opens to the wider sphere. What research did you do? How did you research the topic?

Peta : For me really, I'm such a veracious reader and I've read so many other authors out there over the years - authors like Napoleon Hill, or Jon Keyeux, even Robert Kiwasaki, his information, that sort of thing. But over the years in reading that information. I guess it was forming lots of different things in my own mind - and I then in researching this book, went off and attended lots of seminars in fields that interested me, and they were things like neuro-linguistic programming, Tony Robins, Chris Howard, that kind of thing.

But I also started to listen really closely to what people talked about in general conversations as well as in bigger forums such as seminars that I might have gone to, because that gave me a lot of information as to where I wanted to take the book and what I wanted to do - so very much listening to what people talked about around me formed the biggest research for this book.

Michael : So moving on from that, what do you think are the most important inner things that lead to attracting money?

Peta : I have to say for me, and the point of the book, is what people have as their beliefs or their values - and we've had those values for a long, long time, because they're often formed during childhood - and knowing and learning what they are obviously helps you to change them.

So one - beliefs and values. And two, lots of things going on at that subconscious level - they would be those little things that we would need if we would want to attract more abundance or money. Or any of those emotions that go hand in hand with those are the inner things.

Michael : OK, so can you just talk about them a little bit - talk a little bit more about beliefs and values, and what sort of beliefs and values are useful.

Peta : Yes. I'll give you some really common examples of beliefs that might hinder things in attracting money, and often our readers have a laugh and these sorts of things, but some of the one-line statements that people often say that indicate beliefs. Things like "Oh, money doesn't grow on trees" or something like "I'm just keeping my head above water."

So they're some generic universal beliefs if you like, and if you use them as a one liner, we really do indicate what it is we might believe or hold true about money or abundance in our lives. So those two probably aren't useful if you're trying to attract money or abundance, but some people you do here use some really positive one-liners or beliefs, and these might be things like "I always land on my feet." or "Life's a breeze." or "Everything works out for me".

And again they're indicating beliefs, but they're really a good indication of what that person holds true. And it is those things that tend to drive our behaviour, and in the bigger scheme of things, end up attracting us things whether we want them or not.

Michael : OK we've touched on beliefs. Do you view values as something different or part of the same thing? Do you look at values as being separate to beliefs?

Peta : I do see them as separate things, because I think values encompass emotion and things like that. Our beliefs and our values for most people are very closely related - so a value that you might hold strong, I'll give you an example: "Blood is thicker than water", so that might indicate to you a family value that somebody has, that no matter what you stick by your family.

So the beliefs come into it, but its a belief that's held at an emotional level. And people react to all different things in life, there's family, there's money as well, and there's also other areas in life like relationships. They are in my mind, distinctive,

Michael : And what would be an idea of a useful value, and maybe a less useful value in the context of what we're talking about?

Peta :Just thinking out loud while I'm actually talking to you here Michael - values as in how we view money in our lives and whether we see it as a good thing, or whether or not we see it as a bad thing - so obviously they then influence our behaviour - and I always often talk about things that lean towards something pleasurable or away from something painful because that's indicative about what people's values are around money.

I'll give you an example of a person moving towards a value that might be more pleasurable. People might go to work so that they can earn more money so that they can go on a really lovely holiday at the end of the year, or at Christmas time. So they see the value in that sort of thing, and they move towards what is pleasurable, with money being a good thing.

The negative, or the opposite of that, might be that if somebody holds that going to work is just a means to pay the bills, and bills are a painful thing that they're trying to get away from - then they're using money to get away from something in their life. So that might be an example of moving towards something pleasurable and away from something negative, but at the same time giving you an idea of the value that they hold around money.

Michael : And building one that, would you suggest - or are you not suggesting - that moving towards is more useful than moving away? Is there a - I almost used the word "Judgement" which isn't the right word - but if somebody was interested in exploring the way that people make money, do you have a view as to which ends of the spectrum might work better?

Peta : I think that on the surface people would say that being positive and moving towards pleasure is probably a better way to be emotionally, as an emotional state - rather than you're just moving away from something painful, but at the same time I think that it is something individual - and I guess that the bottom line is that we wont change much of ourselves until it becomes enough of a problem.

So if people are OK, even though they identify that they only go to work so that they can pay the bills, and they're OK with that - I think that for the time being it's not really my right to say "Well, you'd be better off if you changed that!"

People either don't buy a book like this or they don't come to see us privately, unless they're willing to change something, or they've seen core value in that kind of thing. I really leave it up to the individual. I know what's worked for myself, and obviously writing a book like this gives me a fair idea.

Michael :OK. Now you came up with that delightful term "Inner things?", which I really love. Can you just talk a little bit more if there are any specific Inner things - you've talked about beliefs and values, but are there any more inner things that you think are important to talk about briefly?

Peta : I think right up there with beliefs and values is this whole thing of feelings and emotions. and most people might think on the surface "I don't really have any feelings or emotions about money" but really they do - and they're those inner things that are running around inside us that make us have reactions, or make us feel a certain way one day and another way the next, so I think its just the core, this inner thing, these feelings and emotions, they need to be included.

Michael : Excellent. Now, we've talked about the inner things, what outer things do you think are important in attracting money?

Peta : I think, Michael, that so much has been written out there on practical tips on how to get money using the outer things. So some of them might be things like appearance - Do you look like a person who is trying to get a promotion at work, with more abundance - or do you walk confidently with your head held high and a smile, that kind of thing.

And there's some suggestion that even if we practice some of those concrete behaviours then at least we're starting to tell ourselves that we can be different on the inside as well. So as well as appearance, confidence, facial expression, body language - that kind of thing - it's also that state of mind that goes with all of that, how you're thinking about your day as well as thinking about the bigger scheme of things, changing your life.

How that comes across to people is really important, because often the first impression that we make is the one that's lasting.

Michael : OK thanks for that. Now you've answered this to a certain extent, but I'm going to ask you anyway, because the answer you give might give a slightly different view or direction to the answer - What are the ways that people sabotage themselves from earning more money or attracting more money?

Peta : I think number one - and this is where I was listening to a lot of people around me - talking about my book - people obviously live their beliefs and values. They might not be aware of them, but when they start to say things like "Work hard, its the only way" or "There's no such thing as a free lunch.", these are just examples - "money always burns a hole in my pocket" This sort of thing. People go throughout their lives and sometimes actually act them out, and wonder why these things happen to them - but its no wonder to a person like us because we hear them say it over and over again.

Its almost as if they're programming their mind to believe that they are at a loss, or have money leave them, or have crisis that requires the bank account to be drained. So I see sabotaging happening in all of those ways, but certainly the first one is whats coming out of your mouth. If its not being spoken out loud you've got to wonder if there are more positive thoughts that are going to help that kind of thing.

So I think that sabotage happens through that way initially, and then behaviour follows that because subconsciously it doesn't know what else to do, it just follows where you're actually directing it.

Michael : Now if you were to give some people some tips as to attracting money, what sort of things would you say?

Peta : I've had a think about this type of approach and for me the first thing that people need to do is decide, and I know it sounds really funny, but often the half hearted approach, and obviously at a subconscious level, doesn't really suggest that you're committed, so if people really, truly have a desire to change or to do something differently in this area of their life, they really have to make that decision, and at least internally commit to it themselves.

So that would be number one. Number two may be a little bit more tricky, but number two for me for people to become really honest about what their beliefs and values are and this is something that I had to do myself - going back to my family that I grew up with and thinking about what sort of messages were given to us, particularly about money and abundance and getting ahead, that kind of thing - and really be aware of what I do say out loud about money, what are my beliefs, what are my values.

The third step would be, in my view, is find some information on how to use and access your subconscious mind to its ultimate amount, and really learn how you can change those beliefs and values into ones that perhaps are going to move you better and closer to the goals that you are after.

So really go and find out about that - have a chat with someone that you know that has already achieved that kind of thing, or buy a great book. Whatever it is that you need, find out how that's been done, because there's many, many ways, and there's so many examples of how people have changed their lives.

There's evidence that it can be done. But for me, they're those steps that they need to take.

Michael : And if you were coaching a person on this - we've talked about mindset - how important is actually taking action?

Peta : I think vital. The decision is obviously the first step - but people can make the decision and then sit idle for months, and become more frustrated. So certainly the action, that act, is really cementing the situation. So I would see them as hand in hand, to make the decision but do the action straight away.

Michael : Do you have any examples of where you've coached somebody, or somebody else has coached somebody, and they've actually changed from not attracting money to attracting money?

Peta : Yeah, absolutely. Just from this book and having been out for the last twelve months, I've received a lot of letters and emails from people that have bought this book, but have obviously read other books out there in the same field, and many stories.

I'm just thinking of a couple where one lady suggested to me that she was never that lucky with money, she certainly never had it fall in her lap - that kind of thing - but in the process of changing a lot of things in her own beliefs, was often amused to find that she would often find large amounts of money in the street.

So she would literally just be walking along - and it didn't just happen once. So we would have a bit of a laugh about that together, because she would say "It had never happened before!" but she thought it was hilarious that it would literally fall out of the sky.

That might not be a common experience for people, but I have other examples. One in my own life, not me personally, but someone close to me who changed a few things about their beliefs, and family origin, went from our terms, a thirty thousand dollar a year job, that now earns a hundred and twenty thousand.

So that happened only in the space of about six months - and it wasn't that they went out there trying to get that job, it was actually offered to them. So quite a large increase in salary and pay, and quite surprising, but at the same time it was what they were working towards.

There are lots of other examples. Other ones are like, if people are able to raise the ceiling on their savings, so it might be - I've had people say to me that they've only been able to save a certain amount of money in their savings, and then something would happen to drain that money, or that they needed to use it, but through some of the techniques, they were able to raise that from a couple of hundred dollars to thousands and just be quite comfortable with that amount of money just sitting in a savings account, in a bank.

Michael : OK, excellent. To summarize this discussion on attracting money, is there anything that you would like to emphasise that you really think is the key or is there something else that you would like to bring to peoples attention?

Peta : I guess the thing that I would like to point out for all of the listeners out there, and future readers, is that this whole concept of "money doesn't grow on trees" I really think can be true, because if there are people out there like Bill Gates, and Richard Brandson, who obviously have great wealth in their life, probably in many different areas of their life, not just in cash.

There's probably not that much difference between those type of people and everybody else, except for one factor, and that's what goes on in their mind. So if that's the difference then that's something that we can learn to change. So I would say that beliefs and values and emotions are your number one target point that you want to have a look at to change. And for me, money really can grow on trees, and you can learn to subconsciously change these, and they will be changed for the rest for your life, forever.

And I think that this is something that even teenagers, that are quite young, can actually learn to do and benefit from, because I think the more the merrier - the more people that move and change and grow into what they want to become, and what they want to have - the happier the place is going to be just at a world-wide level.

Michael : You've been kind enough to talk to us for fifteen-twenty five minutes on attracting money. Is there anything that you would like to plug yourself to let us know what you're doing, including the book just so we're up to date with whats available from you?

Peta : Yes sure. I'm actively involved at the moment in lots of areas of energy-psychology, so through my university work where we're running some of the first world-wide trials into food cravings. So we're using very similar subconscious techniques to help people in the are of obesity, certainly the Slim Minds company that I'm a director of, is actively available worldwide - and that's easily googled and had a look at.

I guess on a bigger level, just something as small as a hundred and twenty page book that can change their life, and the more that people let me know that it's impacted upon them, then the more that we know that we're answering peoples prayers out there.

So I would just encourage people to look at, not only this book, but many others that Ive mentioned in the back of this one. And if listeners are hoping to find this book as well as others, this one is published by http://www.michelleandersonpublishin...spiration.html as well as major stores.

They're based in Melbourne here, but they ship worldwide as well.

Michael : OK. Excellent. Thank you very much for your time.

Peta : Thank you Michael.

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Great tips I agree, personally what I've found that when I gave up the "striving" for money and relaxed into it and looked for simple ways to bring abundance into my life according to my own values, I became much more content