NLP Training 2 - NLP coaching Part B
Transcript - Draft
Continued from: NLP coaching Part A
Michael : A strategy is a sequence of behaivours that you go through in order to do something. In the context of coaching, if I was interested in what you want to achieve, I would also be interested to know what you do to keep you where you are now because in some ways we're exploring the balance between the two things. But a strategy as I say is the sequence that you go through in order to be good at something. So if somebody wanted to, say, be better at presenting I would be very interested in what they do now to get the results that they now get, because that would give us both very useful information as to what we might like to change.
Liam : How important are things like technique and methodolgy in the things that you do?
Michael : When you're starting techniques are very important in NLP, but I would suggest that it is not the technique itself that is important, but what you learn from actually doing the technique, because if you do the technique you open the other person up and you'll get signs from them as to what is actually happening.
So, to me, the purpose of the technique is to get the reaction - for you to give me information as to where to go next, rather than the technique per ce. As I'm following a particular framework, as I follow this framework what I'm doing is finding a space where the answer for the client will pop through automatically. Therefore when it comes to doing a technique we often don't need it because we've actually gone through all that we need to do, and the client has actually find the answer for themselves which they are going to implement - so the technique bcomes a little bit redundant.
Sometimes techniques are useful, sometimes clients expect them, someitmes I enjoy doing them just so I can see how far I can push the boundries out. So techniques are useful, but there is a lot more to NLP than techniques.
Liam : What is meant by 'A Future Pace?'
Michael : Future Pacing is really interesting. It's about mental rehearsing in the future. If we worked on the same behvour or change in this room, if you're able to do it that's fine - but it may stay in this room. What we want is for you to be able to do it easily in the outside world at a specific time. So what we'll do is we'll get you to rehearse that behavour in that particualr context outside and the object is that if you rehearse it many times you will then find it much, much easier to do that behavour outside at that time.
So it almost transfers the learning from this room into the outside world.
Liam : And what is meant by an 'End Frame'?
Michael : We started off with a frame to say 'this is what the lesson is going to be about', the End Frame closes that particular loop and says 'We have come to the end, you've successfully done these things, and this is what is likely to happen.' And in many cases if we've talked about a big change, I might suggest to you that you're going ot go outside, that you're going to find it much easier to do - but it may be the first time and it won't be as easy as you think - but you will try it. The second time you'll do it you'll find it much easier, and the third and forth time that you do it you'll find it really easy and successful to do.
So it really closes the session off.
Liam : OK. Now, taking it outside of the framework itself you have a list of other things that are important to consider. And the first of these is 'Value', could you just explain to me why value is important?
Michael : Value is just what's important to somebody. You're a martial artist - what do you get out of doing martial arts?
Liam : That sense of personal freedom of martial arts.
Michael : Personal freedom. And what do you get out of personal freedom?
Liam : Intergrity.
Michael : And what does integrity get you?
Liam : A feeling of individualism.
Michael : So you've got integrity, a feeling of individualism - there are important to you are they?
Liam : Yeah.
Michael : OK, your response is good. It's about questioning people as to what is important to them and maybe pushing the questions more than you would normally, and politely, because that gets people to really go inside and to consider the question. And the answers that come out are tremendously useful because if you know what is important to people, or people know what is important to them, it's much easier to do lots of planning - Life planning, work planning, all that sort of stuff.
Liam : OK, and what do you mean by 'Value Rules'?
Michael : If you come up with something like Integrity, or whatever value you come up with, it's a label that may make perfect sense to you, but doesn't necessarily mean anything to me. And I respect the fact that we all have different interpritations of different words. So what I'm interested in is what does that mean, not in your head, but in the outside world.
So if I were to just take this word Integrity and ask 'What would have to happen for you to feel that integrity had been met?"
Liam : I would just feel more relaxed, more secure with my actual body itself.
Michael : OK, that's good. And I'm not concerned with what the answer is, it's just that you have an answer - because that translates that there is an idea that you have in your head as well as what has to happen in the outside world for you to have met it. And there is no mystical answers in this, but this sort of questionig can be tremendously useful for people, espceially if they haven't gone through it before.
Liam : And what is a meta program?
Michael : Meta Programmes is an NLPish way of talking about sorts of profiles. For example, some people are motivated by just jumping in and doing things, some peope are motivated by waiting, thinking about, considering. And when I know when people sit on that particular polarity I am much more likely to be able to communicate with them effectively and I'm much more likely to be able to motivate them because I know which direction they'd like to go in.
Liam : And what is representation system?
Michael : A representation system is simply a sense. In NLP and in life, representation systems are incredibly important, because if you think about it a representation system - or our senses - is how we communicate with the outside world. Therefore if we want to understand how people build up their experience of the outside world we have to do it through senses-type language.
Liam : Is there anything that you would care to add on the subject of framework?
Michael : We've talked about the framework - this is something that I've used and developed myself. Other's with have different versions that they will use. The point I would make to end is this: That all of the elements are useful to explore. The more you practice them the more they actualy turn into a hollistic whole so it' less about doing this and then that, and then something else - but the best way to learn them is by doing them time and time and time again because you'll get better at them - and the beter that you get at them the better you get at whole hollistic thing.
In the end it's the person is important, but the way that you get good at the personal stuff is getting the framework right and practicing the framework.
Liam : Michael Beale, thank you.
Michael : Thank you.
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